AIN'T EASY TO BE A WOMAN

[little_firestar]

 AIN’T EASY TO BE A WOMAN….

Let’s be honest: being a woman has never been easy. We’ve always been challenged during history, even if in different ways, and we struggled to gain rights all through history.  And the result?  Let’s be honest: it sort of backfired.

Why?

Easy: now we have to do two, three times what we used to do back in the day,  too many times men (and people)’s view hasn’t changed at all.

Examples?

Back then we used to have to work at home and watch the family; we fought hard to be able to work and study just like any men did, with the result that too often women end up either working on the job AND at home, as often men, once walking past the doorstep back in, think it’s their right to have a hot meal in the plat and/or a couch to watch peacefully TV on, or have to sacrifice their job and choose between said job and looking after the household (if and when they have a job, as nowadays it’s still common practice in many countries, asking a newly employed woman to  sign a blank resignation letter  that will be filled the moment she’ll ask for maternity leave; salary is smaller despite having the same job as men, sexual harassment and all that jazz).

When we lament? The answer is that we got what we fought for, so we should deal with it.

On top of that, we are  supposed to always look like we are from an episode of Desperate Housewives or The Stepford Wives: perfect and happy. I mean, I’ve  been told by people many times that if I wanted to find/keep my man I wasn’t supposed to not wear make-up, put on a sweater and running shoes and pants and simply tie my hair. But… seriously? When I wake up at 5, 6 am and I have everything to do, and then I go to the job- where, btw, I can’t wear make-up, and as I have to wear a sort of uniform, should I really put on my nicest clothes?

Apparently, yes. And on top of that, I’m supposed to do everything AND be quick about it AND  do my 10-15 minutes daily routine to have a fresh skin every day because  I HAVE to look nice.

Seriosuly… 

Comments

[dm12.livejournal.com]

That's exactly it. Choices must be made, sometimes it's not easy to give up one thing for another, but something always has to give. If you're going to be paying people to do all the things you would do at home, you're not going to get the same level, either. Twice a week is not the same, and not everyone who works can afford to "have a lady come" at all, let alone twice a week. So they are stuck compromising there as well, not doing as good a job. Then there is eldercare... that's a whole other issue that women today face. Not only do they have to care for their children (which many of them had later in life to accommodate their career), but they now have to care for their elderly parents/in-laws/grandparents.

But the choices a person (man or woman) make must be respected, and they aren't. It's hard work running a household; my husband calls me the COO and CFO (often the CTO and CEO as well). He consults me on everything.